4 Things to Consider between Engagement and “I do”

Getting engaged is exciting for everyone; you, your fiancé, your friends, your family. But once the excitement dies down you should take a long look at your relationship. Because a lot can come to light after he pops the question. So here are four things you should seriously consider between engagement and “I do.” you will certainly find these relationship tips useful.

Wedding Bell Bickering

Bickering over wedding details can quickly turn into real fights and cause lasting resentment. Organizing so many moving parts and keeping track of endless details can bring small disagreements to a huge head. Heated arguments over differing opinions or participation can carry over into the relationship. It’s important to realize planning wedding is very stressful and you need to prepare your relationship for the new obligations.

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Many people get engaged because they are incredible in love and comfortable with their partners. But all that romance often doesn’t leave room for heavier conversations. After you get engaged it is essential to talk about serious issue you’ve never discussed. Do you both want children? If so, what are your parenting styles? You need to know things as complex as your partner’s beliefs and values, and as simple as who does what household chores. Learn about each other and find out how to reconcile places where you’re not completely compatible.

Futuer and Wedding plans

After the engagement, the wedding is often all the engaged couple can think about. But marriage is a journey and hopefully will last a lifetime. So you should both think about what life will be like together 20 years from now. Will you grow together or grow about? How will you bring things back together and stay in love? How do you reconcile parts of your partner you’re not exactly in love with? Do this work in the present so it doesn’t ruin your relationship in the future.

Critical Thinking After Engagement

No one can predict the future. But undoubtedly there will be a time where you and your spouse will need to deal with crisis. It may not be fun, exciting or romantic to talk about handling devastating or stressful events in the future, but having a plan of action will help you work through it when it happens. Talk about common marital situations you can more easily see coming, like: unemployment, disengagement from the relationship, attraction to others, lying, betrayal and affairs.

But also consider how you can make it through things you’d never think would happen to you, such as: miscarriage, inability to conceive, disability of a child, yourself or your partner, or death of a child, yourself or your partner. These are hard conversation about difficult experiences. But if and when you cross that bridge making emergency plans may give you a lifeline.

After the engagement ring goes on it’s time to hunker down and really harsh things come out with your love. Get on the same page with your groom-to-be and make sure when you can really keep up with your vows. You have so many reasons for saying “Yes” to the proposal, but consider these four reasons before saying “I do.”