Finances in Relationships

This is a very touchy subject, as the saying goes, “money can’t buy you love” but it can make you quite miserable in a relationship. Finances in any relationship can be a big issue and in most cases presents a form of security for the woman. Sadly, this issue is gender sensitive and if dealt with the wrong way can harbor bitterness. For any woman, being taken care of by the man of the relationship is important. It doesn’t have to mean that he pays all your bills and becomes next of kin as soon as you meet. But feeling the manly presence in the relationship is important. Expecting a man to pay the bills when you are out on a date, buy you gifts, make your hair are some of the things you don’t have to ask your man to do. This should however be done moderately as there is a thin line between provision and gold digging. Here are a few points to think of when it comes to money matters.

Honesty

All women at the end of the day appreciate honesty, if the man is honest enough to admit to being broke and cannot meet the needs at the time then it goes a long way. However, making your girl happy by helping her where you can and how you can strengthens your relationship. Some couples come up with an understanding of who will take care of which bills in the house and it works out fine. If the two have a vision of where your future is heading, saving up money together will create transparency and place the right expectations on each other.

Third Parties

Third party advice in any relationship can be very lethal. Taking advice from your friends on how your man is supposed to take care of you can cause a great tension in your relationship. Remember, not all relationships are the same and what works for you might not necessarily work for someone else. If the two of you have a focus of how you want to grow financially then taking advice from friends and families is not the way to go. The only person you are supposed to be taking advice from is a financial consultant.

Transparency

Very few men will disclose to their partners how much they make in a month. Ego gets in the way of this and they do not realize they will cab the girlfriend’s expectations when there is transparency. Transparency breeds honesty and it cements your relationship by curving the path to a successful future. A woman who is in it for the long haul will structure a financial plan for the two of you and this can only be done where there’s transparency.

Finances can either make or break a relationship. If you used your money to attract your partner, the relationship will fall through the cracks once the money disappears. With money comes pride and easy women but the one who will stick with you through it all is the one worth keeping.