Untold First Date Rules
First dates can be nerve wrecking, conversation can be hard, opinions might be misunderstood and to make it worse, people always misrepresent themselves. Most first dates are quite uncomfortable while others are very easy and flow with ease. Have you ever been on a date where you seem to be getting along well, hit it off but burn out after a weeks of knowing each other? Have you also been on a date where you can’t wait on it to be over and would rather get home and cuddle with your pet cat? Have you maybe been on both? There’s definitely something you are doing wrong that is keeping you from your Mr. Right. Here are a few untold first date rules that you should observe next time.
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Do not talk about your ex.
This right here is a big no no; talking about your ex to a potential next can send the wrong message. If you haven’t gotten over your ex, prolong any dates until you have totally moved on and are not in any way attached to the past. No one wants to listen to a sobbing break up story about your ex on the first date. In the event where your date happens to ask about your ex and how the two of you broke up, keep it simple, brief and do not dwell on it. Answers like, “It didn’t work out,” “We drifted apart,” “we got tired of fighting” will suffice. No one wants to listen to how you cheated or they cheated. Let them get to know you first before unleashing Pandora’s Box.
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Have an Open Mind
It’s human nature to assume that everyone was raised the same way that you were. Just because you don’t like to eat with your hands doesn’t mean everyone is the same way. When going on a first date, do not order for your date unless they ask you to. Do not assume they like Italian meals before asking them and more importantly do not be blind to their suggestions. Having an open mind will make you patient and you will listen more, talk less and pick up on red flags early enough.
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Do not be Sexual
Being sexual on a first date may send off the wrong message and cot the good person you are underneath. Everyone likes people who look beyond the physical and will easily open up to you when you try to connect. Sex on the first date or the second can lead to a quick burn out even if the two of you are nuts about each other. Having sex too early chokes up the mystery. As much as this will sound cliché, get to know more about the person you are meeting first. What they like to do for fun, if they enjoy reading as opposed to their favorite sexual positions. Have you ever been in a relationship where you’re only in it for the sex? This is how it starts.
